Is self-worth worth it?
Hey there, seekers of self-worth! Have you ever felt unsure about how valuable you really are, even though people tell you otherwise? You’re not alone. In this blog post, we’re going to explore what it means to feel worthy – why it’s important and how you can start believing in your own value.
Understanding Worthiness:
Worthiness is all about recognizing how valuable you are just by being yourself. It’s like knowing that you’re special and important, no matter what anyone else says. You don’t have to do anything special to be worthy – you’re already enough just as you are. It’s about realizing that you deserve love, respect, and kindness simply because you exist. Your worthiness doesn’t depend on what you achieve or what other people think of you. It’s something inside you that’s always there, waiting to be noticed by you.
Here are a few ideas to cultivate self worth that will make it worth your while:
Challenging Beliefs and Conditioning:
Sometimes, we struggle to feel worthy because of things we’ve been told or taught when we were younger aka childhood conditioning. Maybe we were told that we had to be perfect to be worthy, or that we had to do certain things to earn love. Maybe you were 6, when you first heard the words ‘if you don’t do…., then you don’t deserve….’, which the little girl comprehended as ‘If I don’t do well in sports/studies/life, I am not deserving of love/money/relationships’ = I am not worthy. But that’s not true! Worthiness isn’t about being perfect or doing everything right – it’s about accepting yourself just as you are. It’s about letting go of those old ideas and remembering that you’re worthy just because you’re you.
Separating Self-Worth from External Validation:
It’s easy to think that our worthiness depends on what other people say or think about us. But that’s not the case! True worthiness comes from inside you, not from other people’s opinions. You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone else – because, once again, you’re already worthy just by being yourself. When you stop seeking validation from others, you set yourself free to be who you truly are.
Constantly seeking validation can create tension and strain in the relationship by putting pressure to constantly meet expectations. The constant need for external approval often stems from an internal sense of lack or insecurity, leading individuals to rely on others to validate their worth and boost their confidence. However, this perceived lack is merely an illusion. We are fully capable of patting our own backs and buying our own flowers. Ah freedom!
Cultivating Self-Compassion:
Self-compassion is like giving yourself a big hug when you need it most. It’s about being kind to yourself, especially when things are tough. Instead of being hard on yourself when you make mistakes, try treating yourself with the same kindness you would show a friend. Remember, you’re only human, and it’s okay to mess up sometimes.
In today’s fast-paced society, we’re driven by ambition, which often leads to being overly hard on ourselves when we make mistakes. But let’s not forget about the little 6-year-old inside each of us, trying their best. Take a moment to be kind to this little warrior and tell them ‘It is going to be alright’.
Honoring Your Authenticity:
Being worthy means embracing all the things that make you unique – your strengths, your quirks, and your flaws. You don’t have to be perfect to be worthy – in fact, it’s your imperfections that make you special. When you embrace your authenticity, you honor your worthiness and show the world the real you. Don’t try to fit in a round box if you are a square. Don’t be afraid to let your true self shine.
As we wrap up, remember this: you are worthy, just as you are. You don’t have to do anything special to prove your worth – you’re already enough. So embrace your worthiness with kindness, compassion, and acceptance, knowing that you are deserving of love, respect, success, wealth and happiness simply because YOU ARE YOU.